Why Your Spouse May Irritate You
Your irritates will show your inner properties, pressure brings out the inner properties.
If your spouse says something that irritates you, it’s your heart that is seeing it in a negative light. Your response is your heart, not theirs. Even if your response is silent to them, but in your mind, that your inner properties.
What is God showing you about your inner heart? are you quick to anger, pop off, get hurt feelings, think the other person isn’t doing what you want them to do?
Take note of your inner heart, it’s showing up with every reaction. Pray up your inner and outward thoughts.
Ezekiel 36:26 26 And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
Psalm 51:10 10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right[a] spirit within me.
The trials Jesus went through… did they cause him to be the son of god or reveal him as the son of god? Our trials reveal who we are.
Your spouse doesn’t cause you to be the way you are, they reveal the way you are. Your response comes within you..
Oyster- sand- pearl === a speck of sand in the human eye first causes irritation, if not cared for infection, then if still not cared for loss of vision. Now that same speck of sand in an oyster causes irritation, then concretion then produces a pearl. Did the sand cause the eye to lose vision, did the sand cause the oyster to produce a pearl? NO. the sand is a irritant that reveals the inner properties of the human eye, the sand is an irritant that reveals the inner properties of the oyster… If that’s not the case be careful next time you get sand in your eye a pearl may pop out…
On the marital bus ride your spouse is an irritant. Revealing your inner properties.
If you step on a rose (beautiful smell) you will smell it.. When you stepped on the rose did you cause it to smell? NO. the pressure on the rose revealed the inner properties.
Now over here you have a skunk… smells horrible. Now step on the skunk. Are you causing the skunk to smell like a skunk or revealing inner properties? On the marital bus ride are you a rose or a skunk?
YOUR RESPONSE IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!