The Wife’s Role In The Home part 1& 2 (from a listener) GREAT NOTES



I’m not sure if this is exactly what you wanted. I kind of went off on my own soapbox a little bit.   I hope this helps you. But, if it doesn’t I want you to know that you helped me by giving me this assignment.  I really got inspired to read my bible and know the bible. I learned a lot with this.   Thank You

The Wife’s Role in the home. Parts 1 and 2 by Tony Evans


I listened very diligently to these videos. Twice. Here is what Tony had to say.

“The role of the wife is to help the husband do his job well, no to replace him in the home.”

“The husbands role is to set an environment in the home of intimacy, create an environment of harmony, not a place of strife.”

He uses Proverbs 27:15 and Proverbs 21:9 to describe what it’s life for a man that chooses the wrong woman as a wife.

Like a continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. Proverbs 27:15

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Proverbs 21:9

Now let me insert my opinion here.  I do believe it is the wife’s job to help her husband do his job well just as he should help do her job well. She not replace him in the home. Okay he shouldn’t leave a window to be replaced in the home.

It is the husband’s job to create an environment of intimacy and harmony, not strife. Ok But why can’t the wife also strive to create this environment.

I don’t mean to contradict everything he says I do agree with a lot of stuff he says.

The wife is an indespensible part of the program.  Yes she is, just as the man is an indespinsible part of the program.

Genesis 2:18 says “And the Lord said, It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a help meet for him.”

I love this verse.  Because it is not putting the man above women, or women below them. God created women to be man’s helper. And let’s face it ladies. Most men need our help. They can’t function without us.. They know and we know it.


Tony refers to Proverbs 31 for much of the rest of part 1 and most of part 2 of the video.  He says this is the role of the Perfect wife that God created.

While a lot of what Tony had to say did resonate with I felt like a lot of it didn’t not. I felt like it was man’s opinion of what a wife should be according to the Bible. So, I of course being an independent woman of the 21st century want a woman’s opinion of what the Bible says a wife should be. So I done some research and I found Dorothy Patterson. She is a preacher’s wife in Arkansas but she also graduated from the New Orleans Theological Seminary in 1970.  Her perspective can be found at It is called The High Calling of Wife and Mother in Biblical Perspective.  Dorothy’s paper followed a lot of what Tony had to say to my surprise but it really put it into perspective for me.

She read every single book in the bible and said that in every book she found a word for her. She also said that that word was not always comforting; in fact, sometimes it was like a sword to my heart. That exactly the way I felt until I read her whole article.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shell cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24.

In order to have harmony in a marriage there is no other way but for the husband and wife to become one.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. 1 Timothy 5:14

When I first read this verse I was appalled. Thinking so God thinks women are only good for bearing children and keeping house.  Then I read 1 Timothy 5:18 where in God said The Labourer is worthy of his reward.  You see he didn’t mean this to be a demeaning job the way most women see it nowadays. He meant it as a true JOB.  No we don’t get paid for it but it is worthwhile.

Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your hand,that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.  And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates. That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the Lord sware unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth.  Deuteronomy 11:18-21

This is what He wants women to do. Teach their children his word and raise them to know and love and worship God.

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulteres God will Judge. Hebrews 13:4

Submitting yourselves one to another in fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24

Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33

God wants us to be married not live in sin.  He wants the husband to be the head of the family and to love and protect and provide for his family while the life takes everything that he does and creates a good loving home for the husband and the children.

A noble wife is the crown of her husband, but the wife who acts shamefully is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4

Two people are better than one, because they can reap more benefits from their labor. Ecclesiastes 4:9

The heat of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11-12

And finally what does the wife and mother get out of this deal? What makes all of this worth it for her?  Why do all these things that God dictates and submit herself to her husband.  Because of this verse.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Proverbs 31:28.


Because a good wife. A good mother.  A wife that loves her husband and submits to his faults (believe me there are plenty in my husband. Haha) and cares for her children and raises them to know and love God and treat others with respect. Well.

Her price is far above rubies.  Proverbs 31:10.






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